Meaning

Since my recent post celebrating the formal legalization of Tom & George's marriage, they have crafted an Open Letter to all Californians. In light of the looming state constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage (Proposition 8), close on the heels of California's landmark decision legalizing it, they wish to explain why this proposition should be defeated. The letter is personal, well-reasoned, factual and compelling. I urge everyone to read it, regardless of your position on the issue, because through it you will gain a very personal understanding of what marriage means to these two loving and committed men; you will see that it is the very same things the rest of us enjoy (or strive for) in our marriages.

Last month, my good friend Tom and his husband, George, took advantage of the recent California Supreme Court ruling overturning the state's ban on same-sex marriage and finally obtained an official marriage license. The civil ceremony, conducted on a fine Saturday morning by a judge-acquaintance at a Downtown LA courthouse, was brief and private. I was not there, but my family and I joined the "newly-weds" for a celebratory lunch following the ceremony at a fun Mexican restaurant named Casita Del Campo in the Silver Lake area. We had a most enjoyable time with Tom's parents and a small group of the couple's close friends. The whole affair was very low-key and informal, so perhaps I can be excused for missing, at the time, the "big picture" significance of the event.